I wholeheartedly agree. And I’d also add that the humiliation/degradation aspect - which I totally don’t get - makes the sex all about the man watching (albeit in a twisted way) rather than the woman being watched.
Now, I know very well that MOST male fantasies involving more than two participants revolve around the FFM variety: that is, two females, one male. Ask just about any guy out there what their #1 wish would be, and you’ll probably get the “two chicks at once” answer. A guaranteed top three rank for sure. Hell, it’s in MY top three…
…So, seeing as MOST men seem to have little to no trouble with introducing another female to the mix (and actually will proudly admit to such), but there are multiple stigmas attached to adding another male, I decided to compare the two. I wanted to really get at this issue of why, for most men, is FFM > MMF? …FFM is obviously male-centric. If there’s any dick action going on, you know whose it’s going to be. There is one object of worship: the singular penis in the room. Sounds great, no? But practically speaking, this is the biggest issue for the FFM situation. You really can’t fuck two things at the same time with one cock. Sure, you can switch it up a lot, but it’s still only in one place at one time. If you want multiple penetrations you’re going to have to use something else (dildo, bedpost, finger, vibrator, eggplant, toe, etc). When the only cock in the room blows its load, that’s it for a little while.
In the MMF case, it’s the other way around: the woman is now the commodity which is in short supply. She is the object to be worshipped and attended to, totally unique in her abilities and characteristics.
(I recognize that I am leaving out the other permutations of MMF coupling–those which involve direct male/male contact. This in no way treats them as less valid or less satisfying forms, but was done intentionally to sidestep the “homosexual” aspect which I believe clouds the issue of a direct comparison between MMF and FFM. There seems to be NO evidence to suggest female homosexuality is any kind of deterrent to the FFM instance, in direct contrast to those objections raised over MMF. I believe it is possible to be completely heterosexual and still engage in threesomes of either flavor.)
Like most human beings, I like to be worshiped. It makes you feel special, right? What’s not to like. The thing is, that’s not the BIGGEST turn on for me. What really gets me going is the EFFECT I have on my wife. I want to worship HER, to see how, with my art and craft and strength, I make HER wriggle and squirm and moan. It’s for exactly this reason that while a playthrough helps let off steam and retain harmony in the pack, it’s no replacement for those times that I really have my wife begging for it. THAT’S the good stuff… When she’s so turned on she can’t see straight or form coherent sentences. Giggity giggity!
For the same reason, the idea of double-teaming a woman has an incredibly naughty allure. I believe it’s actually MORE naughty and taboo than the FFM case, which has really become quite socially acceptable and mundane (see: homophobia). It’s all about her!
After all, the woman in an MMF threesome is ipso facto more girl than one guy can handle. Unlike FFM, with MMF there are MULTIPLE cocks, and MULTIPLE holes. More opportunity to give it and take it. Suddenly a new option “opens up”: double penetration. Not “simulated” DP… we’re talking about the real deal. Lots of motion, lots of friction, different partners, different cocks, different rhythms. A whole new world of combinations (DP, DAP, DPP, oral/vag, oral/anal) becomes possible. The center wants attention. She wants affection. She wants to be fucked senseless. The men in the room are tools–sexual tools that exist only for her masturbatory pleasure. They have been objectified into dicks and fingers and mouths–inanimate objects that serve only one purpose: to get her off. She is a sex-starved, take-everything-you-can-dish-out woman–begging for it all, begging for release–and she can’t get enough of it.
What is that but the very definition of sluttiness (and my definition of epically fucking hot)?
FFM threesome? Fun, for sure. Exciting too!
MMF threesome? Now that’s a thing which promises to unleash the immense latent female sexual power and capacity that must otherwise be kept deep and held secret for fear of pejorative judgments and social stigma.
To behold that bottomless pool of raw dripping lust, exposed and revealed, and to recklessly throw one’s self into it, is, to me, the ultimate form of worship and intimacy.